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Permalink Reply by Stan Zielinski on June 25, 2012 at 11:13am

Namaste Sean,

I heard part of an intriguing interview with you yesterday, but had to cut it short to go swim with sea turtles off of Maui, which is how I achieve oneness with the cosmos. 

But where do I find that interview? Tried google. Unproductive. 

Thanks in advance. 

Happy :) 

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Permalink Reply by Lydia Mariza Hinojos on June 27, 2012 at 1:03am

Hello sean, i came to live to this country over 8 years ago and i still feel painfully detached as well as missing like crazy my group of friends and my old town. I have made attempts to make friends unsuccesfully. I have a hard time finding people with similar interests to mine and I have to admit to be judgemental which has leaded me to only feel more isolated than i ever expected to be. How can i find and be able to relate to people that might share my interests? how could i be more positive and dont' send people away?

Many blessings and thanks for your answer.

MH

 

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Permalink Reply by Tanja on February 12, 2013 at 9:37am

Dear Sean,

I have just finished chapter 5 of your book ("Romance") and in my current situation this was the chapter I was looking forward to the most. I find so much truth in there, especially because I am myself in a complicated relationship. Last October my boyfriend broke up with me and my world collapsed - he kind of "returned" in November and now our relationship status is undefined. He said "Let's see where this is going" and I agreed as I also needed my time.
He often gets in touch with me, visits my family with me and we've had great times in our local spa. ;)

Now I am in Canada for 3 weeks and he went to Dubai for one week - with his female colleague from uni. I know about her, he calls her "bro" and told me that she is a platonic friend to him. I believe him as platonic friendships to women are not unusual for him. It was her idea to go as she has a friend there and he's had a lot of stress in the last month - so I knew that he needed a holiday.

Of course I'm not exactly cheerful that he's on holiday with another woman, but I thought it would be a really bad idea if I started whining and nagging. In the end, he can do whatever he wants.

I really have to say that I trust him. I think, if he had any romantic ambitions he would have told me and not spent some intense nights with me before my departure.

But still I'm scared. :( I try not to be, but I am afraid that my negative thoughts will only make it worse. Whenever I get scared I try to lay down, visualise my love and send a lot of it to him and myself. I know that whatever happens, happens and that I will survive no matter what. What really keeps me occupied is that I can't get rid of my negative thoughts. I'm scared of what will come (and my thoughts try to convince that the worst will happen), although nobody can tell what will happen! I invest a lot of energy in fear, and I don't want to be afraid. I'm fantasising about him looking at me sadly, telling me that our relationship has no future, that he's sorry, but this is it. You see, I have very detailed thoughts of how he could hurt me. Well.. being afraid is of no use in this situation. It would hurt enough if he returns and tells me that something happened between her and him. But I'm uselessly scared "in advance" and this drives me crazy.

Do you maybe have any advice on how I can deal with my fears? :)

Thank you very much,

Tanja

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