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"I am NEVER happy!"

Today, I was at a friend's business, someone who interacts with many famous people on a daily basis. A very, very famous entertainer was there--with apologies, I just can't name names, it would be not only rude but a real invasion of their privacy, especially given what I'm about to say.....

But I can say this: she is one of the most famous people on the planet at the moment, not only in the U.S. but globally. She's at the pinnacle of her career in every way: not only is she world famous, she's also very wealthy, beautiful, has the idealized body that so many clamor for, and seems from the outside to live a completely charmed life--the sort of life that those reading gossip and celebrity magazines fantasize about having for themselves.

My friend asked her if she was happy with something he had just done for her. She replied, "I'm NEVER happy!" and the clear implication was that meant with anything, ever. It was a statement of her general mindset and orientation.

When you read first section of The Bliss Experiment--and hear the stories like that of Lyle the mega-millionaire or Max the famous rock star--the reasons for this aren't surprising. The truth is that nothing external, not fame, nor wealth, beauty, youth, or anything else can give us happiness let alone bliss.

Of course, I immediately felt very badly for this poor woman who is never happy despite her outward circumstances because I got the distinct feeling that she's trapped. She doesn't know what to do or where to go to find the deep, abiding happiness that she seeks. While many might find her emphatic declaration of anti-happiness a shame or sign of being a spoiled diva, for me it only evoked deep compassion. I know what she's going through and I don't wish her suffering, I just wish she could find her way out of it.

The other startling thing about it is that this person's entire public personna is based upon being up-beat, perky, smiley/happy/shiny. In person, it's really clear to a discerning person that the whole thing is a facade, it's almost like a character she plays for public consumption. But that just makes it all the more painful, I'm sure, for her: having to constantly pretend to be something she just isn't and doesn't really even understand.

As well, it's a reminder for all of us not to assume, let alone judge, what's truly going on inside someone else. No matter how they might look from the outside, especially at a distance, we just can't know their inward reality. We shouldn't ever want someone else's life, no matter how great we think it might be. Instead, we need to find our deepest, most authentic selves within and live that life to the fullest.

Tags: celebrity, external, fame, happiness, internal, vs., wealth

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Comment by Ericka on March 5, 2012 at 1:10pm: That is so unfortunate to be never happy-not even for one minute out of a day. I find that to be utterly impossible. I have to find something to be happy about or I might not even want to live another day.

Comment by Juliebean2012 on March 5, 2012 at 1:30am: Wow. That is a definitive statement to make. It is very finite and very concrete. This is the first I recall someone admitting that they are never happy. I find that almost impossible. I mean, I've been depressed for weeks and months at a time, even. However, I don't think I could say that I'm never happy. Sometimes it is the simple things like the kiss of a significant other or the sun peaking through the window after days of cloudiness that lifts my spirits. I try to find any little thing possible to bring me happiness.

Comment by Jennifer Dunn on March 1, 2012 at 7:24am: Hollywoods definition of fame, success, and bliss is often off target! Thats for sure. Makes you really feel sad for her.

Comment by tomsbabyjenna on February 27, 2012 at 8:10pm: Truly money doesn't buy happiness and I do wish her and us all the best on our road to discovering what it is that makes us each truly happy. I believe everyone needs to do some soul searching and discover what makes them joyous. Then take steps to align your life with the plans you had made. I think having figured this out at a younger age I am benefited immensely being able to do something everyday to make myself happy. I have found when I do this I am a better person and am more enjoyable to be around.

Comment by marissa on February 26, 2012 at 8:19am: Celebrities all hide through fake smiles and personalities. But this does not apply to celebrities alone. Even the one sitting beside you might be faking a smile to hide their true feelings. If only they knew The Bliss Experiment, somehow those smiles will become more meaningful and true.

Comment by Mitchell on February 24, 2012 at 10:53pm: Simple and great example of what teaches - You can never buy happiness, even though she is wealthy, rich and famous, she seems never to be happy with her life. Happiness comes with the cherished moment with true friends, relatives, love which cannot never be bought by money. So, just cherish every moment and preserve any happiness you get in this small life.

Another lesson is what seems in outside, is generally not true from inside, and we never should judge a book by it's cover.

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